Alright, it’s a little early for a Valentines Day post – but, hey the stuff is already in the stores, so you’ll have to think about it, whether you want to or not. One of the reasons I started blogging was because of the positive feedback I had gotten from some things I had posted on facebook that were on my heart. This is a very slightly revised version of something I posted on Valentines Day three years ago.
I spent many, many years single on Valentines Day. As hard as I tried to pretend the day didn’t exist, it was a bit of a downer. I’ll never forget Valentines Day in 2000. It was my first day working at my previous employer, and I had to go to Madison, WI for training. I actually forgot it was Valentines Day and wore a red blazer with a zipper that had a heart on it. Here I was, meeting people I would work with for 12 years, on Valentines Day, accidentally wearing a Valentines Day blazer. I felt like a fool. That night, being out of town, I realized I was going to have to go out to eat alone on Valentines Day. I went through the KFC drive thru and ate alone in my room. In addition to all of that, I wasn’t certain I made the right career decision. It was a bummer!
Let’s face it, the bloom is off the rose for many of us who have been with the same person for a few years, especially for those of us who have small children. The expectation of great romance on a holiday such as this is diminished because it’s just too much effort to get a babysitter, get all dressed up and get out of the house, especially after a day of working. Frankly, I’m glad the pressure is off. My husband and I exchanged gifts standing in the kitchen while he made dinner. The kids got very inexpensive little gifts, and a little candy. It was all just fine and perfect to me.
What struck me this year was my excitement for my son about his Valentines Day exchange at school. It reminded me of when I was little, and how fun Valentines Day was before there was all the pressure of being in a grown up, romantic relationship. It was all about construction paper hearts and candy. But, mostly it can be a celebration of love, and for little kids it’s the love of their friends, teachers and parents. I wish I had looked at Valentines Day differently when I was a single adult.
The way I see it today is that it’s just another day to be grateful. Even people who have a ton of “friends” have a handful of close family and friends who really love us, and to whom we are important every day. These are the people we can count on when things aren’t going well, and to be our cheerleaders when we’ve had something great happen. Married, single, having relationship problems, whatever your status is. . . you have some of those people in your lives. That is something to celebrate.